Sunday, April 19, 2015

Overcoming Anger, Fear, and Hurt

I've wanted to touch on this topic for quite some time, but I realized that first I had to overcome it myself. Which I recently have. It was a painful two weeks that included a lot of tears but it was so worth it. This post is for those of you, who have felt wronged in any way. I don't know your specific circumstance, but I hope this can help you come to peace with the inner demons that you're fighting.

Overcoming anger, fear, and hurt has three corresponding solutions. The Atonement, forgiveness, and letting go are the solutions that I've found to work with overcoming the underlying issues that come from whatever trial. If you truly want to overcome something, you can. I believe that without a doubt. 

Christ took upon all the infirmities of the world. He knows how to ease our burdens and sorrow. Alma 7:11-13 states:


 11 And he shall go forth, suffering pains and afflictionsand temptations of every kind; and this that the word might be fulfilled which saith he will take upon him the pains and the sicknesses of his people.
 12 And he will take upon him death, that he may loosethe bands of death which bind his people; and he will take upon him their infirmities, that his bowels may be filled with mercy, according to the flesh, that he may know according to the flesh how to succor his people according to their infirmities.
 13 Now the Spirit knoweth all things; nevertheless the Son of God suffereth according to the flesh that he might take upon him the sins of his people, that he might blot out their transgressions according to the power of his deliverance; and now behold, this is the testimony which is in me.

Because of the Atonement, Christ has walked our life. He knows how to succor, or help, us (in really simplified terms). The Atonement is not just for when we sin; it's for when we are sad, hurt, angry, and afraid.

Forgiving those who have intentionally or unintentionally hurt us is a difficult and often scary process. It means putting ourselves in a position the natural man doesn't like. It means becoming humble and submissive and saying that you won't hold a grudge against someone. I went through this process myself recently. I had realized that I needed to forgive my biological parents in order to feel at peace. They have never done anything wrong to me, but I felt like I was wronged by them. I had to come to terms that they hadn't done anything to me and that I needed to forgive them and let go of my anger and bitterness.

Letting go can be just as hard as forgiving. It's a process that will take some time to get through completely, whether it be days, months, or years. I'm still in the middle of it. There will be times where you will get angry or upset and want to still blame whatever happened that hurt you. That does you no good! It only sets you back father in the whole process. Take a deep breath and remember that it'll all be okay.

And finally I leave with you two great general conference talks. The first one is about fear and the second one is about forgiveness. I hope that this has been helpful to you in some way. Remember your Heavenly Father loves you greatly.

Elder Bednar, Therefore They Hushed Their Fears
Elder Sorensen, Forgiveness Will Change Bitterness to Love

Love,
 Janae

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